Ladies, This is my story, what's yours?

   Let us peel away the many layers of thoughts that we have right now about whether or not our kids are behaving or what our husbands may be doing right now and if he’s doing it to my liking!  When our minds are clear, God will not only speak to us

But we will here Him more clearly.  How many women are like me in the fact that I like the way I parent better, or I am a better spiritual leader of the family.  If I could only get my husband to see it my way and do things the way I think it should be, our world would be such a better place. If he would just help more around the house or with the kids.(without me having to ask) I am doing almost all of it and I’m exhausted. It is not fair.  Life isn’t fair! 

   Ladies, what does GOD say about all this?  I’ll tell you what God says: 

    I have created you to be your husband’s help meet.  You ask what is a help meet?  Being a help meet is being who God has asked you to be,(helping your husband meet his needs). I use to ask myself, what about me?  Me and my needs?  If I could just get him to be who I think he should be as a husband and father, THEN I WILL be joyful and thankful and he would be DESERVING of my love and respect.  But only until he’s deserving.  Listen, thank God JESUS didn’t wait until we were deserving to come save US.

     What changed my life was when I began to focus on what God says in His gospel about our role as wives:

There are so many things I want to read to you tonight but you will just simply have to order this book on amazon for $9.00 and read and ask God to REVEAL to you what He has planned for you as a  help meet to your husband. 

   My mind set was this: if I do become his helper, then he will start treating me better.

He will help more around the house.

He may even start going to church with us.

I finally realized this:

It’s not about receiving, it’s about giving, submission, honoring and respecting.  And not when he’s deserving, it’s because listen:

When we honor and respect our husband, we are honoring and respecting God.  When we are in submission and honoring our husbands, we are in submission and honoring God.

I had grown so bitter and full of resentment toward my husband for so many reasons I thought were justifiable that my soul was bitter and unhappy with my marriage. “you can practice joy and thanksgiving. Every day, every right response makes the fingers of your soul find the notes of joy and thanksgiving easier and easier.

    *THANKFULNESS IS HOW YOU THINK; JOY IS THE ABUNDANCE IT PRODUCES.

    *DISCONTENTMENT IS NOT A PRODUCT OF CIRCUMSTANCES; IT IS THE STATE OF THE SOUL.

    *NEVER DEMAND THAT A MAN LOVE AND CHERISH YOU BECAUSE HE OUGHT TO. EARN EVERY LAST SMILE AND SHARED MOMENT.

     “No man has ever crawled out from under his wife’s criticism to be a better man-no matter how justified her condemnation.”

We SHALL NOT be our husband’s conscience!

Nor shall we play the HOLY SPIRIT!

GOD STANDS WITH YOU WHEN YOU STAND BY YOUR MAN.

    “The degree to which you reverence your husband is the degree to which you reverence your creator.  As we serve our husbands, we serve God.  But in the same way, when you dishonor your husband, you dishonor God.

You would think because my heart had grown so bitter that it would be hard to begin to love, respect and honor him.  But when I read that statement I wept! I had been so dishonoring and so disrespecting to God.  So as I prayed and asked for forgiveness for what I had not been to my husband, God gave me grace and made it easier to love and respect and submit to him because I now knew I was loving, respecting and submitting to God.